Efficiency vs. Effectiveness [Self-Development]

There are many different types of people in your workplace; however, all of these people use their time in only 1 of 4 ways:

First, you have Daniella, who gets into work early and leaves late.  Daniella is the type of person that averages a 12-hour work day, and is usually seen walking around the office making jokes and sending random e-mails, and IM chats. Daniella’s work habits, and time management skills, may be described as not-efficient and not-effective.  Daniella is rarely promoted and receives low-to-medium reviews on a yearly basis.

Second, you have Ricky who also puts in long work days; however, Ricky sticks to himself and is usually busy all day.  He usually ends the day off by saying “I was so busy today I just couldn’t seem to catch my breath, but I still didn’t get much done.”  Do you ever feel like this?  Ricky’s work habits are the trademark of high-efficiency, and low-effectiveness: lots of action, but lack of results.  Ricky receives medium reviews and is promoted at a rate similar to the majority of his co-workers.

Next comes Rob, who is a part-time DJ that loves to mix Hip-Hop. He is the guy who takes a couple of extra breaks every day, and takes a nap after his 2-hour lunch….every day.  After his nap, he puts on his headphones and gets in the zone for about 3 hours.  So, in Rob’s typical 8-hour work day he does about 3 hours of actual work.  The amazing thing about Rob is that his work is always of high-quality.  Rob gets phenomenal reviews from management, and is promoted more often than others in the office.  Rob is the epitome of a highly-effective, but not efficient worker.  When all is said and done, Rob gets his shit done and still has time to throw the Frisbee around.

Finally, you have Wayne who is known around the office as “The Machine.”  Wayne comes into work for eight hours, puts on his headphones, and takes care of business.  All of his projects are on-time, on-budget and always of high-quality.  Wayne is constantly being promoted, and is an amazing asset to every team that he works on.  Wayne is a highly-efficient, and a highly-effective individual.

     Efficiency: the process of staying busy all the time, with no idle moments.

     Effectiveness: the process of producing the maximum results, in the minimum time, with the minimum effort.

Which person are you? If you are not Wayne then you definitely have room for improvement.  So, you’re probably wondering, “How do I get to Wayne’s level?”

You become effective by working smart instead of working hard.  To double your effectiveness apply the 20/80 rule, where prioritized tasks always come first.  In your life, 20% of your activities will produce 80% of the results that you are after.  Just 20% of your listed activities will take you faster and farther than others.  So, focusing on these 20% is what transforms energy-wasting efficiency into results-producing effectiveness.

Our minds tend to take the path of least resistance.  I will be the first to admit that, on a To-Do List, I will start off by tackling the easiest tasks first.  I think to myself…”well, i’ll get more of these quick-hitter tasks out of the way, and then get to the important ones.”  This mentality is not following the 20/80 rule, and is incorrect.  In what order do you attack your To-Do List?  Therefore, in order to transform efficiency into effectiveness, you must write a To-Do list, prioritize your tasks, and stick to their order.

In my first few weeks working for Cameesa, I used to program every day because I wanted to improve the website. However, once I learned about, and applied, the 20/80 rule, I realized that programming was not in the top 20% of tasks.  Although, we needed to improve the Cameesa site on a daily basis, I found out that we needed to bring Cameesa to the world and, at that point, the 20% of my most important activities became: reaching out.  Communicating to the world, and spreading the word of Cameesa, will bring me 80% of the results that I am looking for.  Since then, I spend a lot more time reaching out to t-shirt blogs and other potential Artists, Supporters, and Shoppers.

The 20/80 Rule will allow you to do twice as much in half of the time, so start using it today.

This 20/80 Rules comes from Charles Givens’, SuperSelf.

Hula Hoops – My favorite toy ever

Did you love to Hula Hoop as a kid? Do you still enjoy Hula Hooping today?

I believe Hula Hooping is an activity you never out grow!

Once you learn the Hula Hoop moves, it never leaves you. It’s kind of like learning to ride a bicycle, once you master it, you never forget how. And more importantly, you never forget how much awesome FUN it is to practice your “moves” and even to learn new ones.

There are Hula Hoop moves you may never have imagined possible, but you might be surprised what can be done with a Hula Hoop. If you have ever Hula Hooped in the past, you know it’s absolute fun found in the middle of a colorful circle. If you’ve never experienced the fabulous challenge of being able to Hula Hoop for hours (or even minutes) at once, it’s time to give it a try and experience the endless magic of an activity you will never regret beginning!

Benefits of Hula Hoops – It gives you great waist line

No kidding! It’s great exercise for your waist and keeps things in check, even after the dreaded peri-menopause years begin.

Hula Hooping is my secret exercise for keeping in shape, which is a real bonus for me because, as I’m sure you know by now, it’s an activity that I really enjoy and have fun doing.

I got my first Hula Hoop at age ten and it took me a little while to get the hang of it. But I learned, not only to Hula Hoop at my waist but to start at my neck and keep the Hula Hoop going all the way down to my feet and then back up again. I was in fifth grade during this time and several of my friends also loved to Hula Hoop. We had a Hula Hoop group and we took our Hula Hoops to school everyday (which was difficult since I rode the bus everyday) but it was worth the inconvenience when we all Hula Hooped through recess every morning and afternoon.

I’ve been Hula Hooping for years and just like riding a bicycle, the enjoyment has never faded away. I Hula Hooped with my daughter and now am teaching my four year-old granddaughter how to Hula Hoop too! It’s definitely a fun tradition to share.

Best Hula Hoops

My personal favorite is the old-stand-by, Whamo Hula Hoop, just like the hot-pink one I played with in 5th grade. It has ball-bearings inside to give that famous sound, which also gave it it’s name, “Shoop Shoop” Hula Hoop! It’s one of my favorite toys from childhood and I think among the best hula hoops in UK. I never stopped doing through the years! I still love Hula Hooping today!

hula hoops 2018Hula Hoop Exercises

If you’re looking for a fun way to shed off those excess fats, you might as well go back to your childhood days where those fancy hula hoops are your best kept toys. Do you know that hula hoops can help you in your quest for a healthier, sexier body? Know more about these easy hula hoop exercise tricks and learn the routines you have to do every single day for a slimmer body. Continue reading “Hula Hoops – My favorite toy ever”

Making a delicious pancakes with crepe maker

Thankfully this holiday season has brought me plenty of relaxing and reflection time. Most of these times were accompanied by anticipated pancake breakfasts. Yet some were accompanied by candlelight due to nature’s form of diamond chandeliers.

More thanks to having everything all powered just in time for the real festivities. Christmas went on as normal with lots of food and family (don’t worry I didn’t eat my family, although I may have been tempted to take a mental bite out of them at one point or another).

But let’s get back to those pancakes, shall we? There is no sense digging in to reflections and resolutions on an empty stomach, so let me introduce to you some Vanilla Orange Pancakes. But before we make these delicious pancakes, You need to have a good non stick pan so that the pancakes don’t stick on it. I prefer an electric crepe maker, that can be use to make both crepe and pancakes. You can learn more about electric crepe makers here http://sistersinthekitchen.co.uk/best-electric-crepe-makers/

Orange is actually one of my least favourite flavours as it reminds me of being a kid and having my packed lunch sandwich slightly orange flavoured from being squished against my clementine. I hated it. When I smell clementines, I don’t think of Christmas. I think of gross lunch bag sandwiches. But enough about that because this orange flavoured meal was actually appetizing!

Vanilla Orange Pancakes

Ingredients: Instructions
•1 tbsp vanilla protein powder
•2 tbsp coconut flour
•1 tbsp vital wheat gluten
•1/2 cup canned pumpkin
•1/4 cup cold Blood Orange Pu’erh
•1/4 cup egg whites
•1/4 tsp baking powder
•1/4 tsp baking soda
•1 tbsp apple cider vinegar
•Capella Waffle Flavour drops

1)Mix all dry ingredients

2)Add pumpkin mix well

3)Add egg whites, mix. Add other liquids (except ACV) mix. 

4)Add apple cider vinegar and mix immediately before pouring onto frying pan.

Category Mark Comments Overall Grade


These pancakes cook up quick compared to recipes I have made in the past




The stats are approx: 170cal (20g carbs/3g fat/19g protein)


The orange tea adds a nice hint of flavour.



Very cake-y texture

General Comments:
Makes a 8 small pancakes

A general reflection of the past year leaves me in a satisfied state. There are definitely areas where I could improve (like relationships), yet there are other areas where I have made great accomplishments (like in my career).

I’m the type of girl who made resolutions even before resolution making was popular. Some call it dedication, yet I’m swayed to want to call it insecurity. For me I make goals/resolutions when I am not secure at the place I am and feel the need to achieve something to get to a better place.

Despite my negative interpretation of resolutions…I still make them. Continue reading “Making a delicious pancakes with crepe maker”

Hedge Trimmer – Why I bought it from UK

I had the pleasure of talking with the head gardener Carolyn about the gardens and farm. The most formal of the gardens was influenced by the horticulturist Alan who contributed not only a sensibility for gardens in the English manner, but also introduced biodynamic techniques to the farm. The plantings were carried out by Wendy Johnson.

A circular yew hedge (Taxus baccata) surrounds the garden punctuated by flowering arbors on the four directional entrances. Carolyn commented that the yew hedge is rigorously pruned to keep it at its current height. Centering the garden is a Japanese snowbell (Styrax japonica) surrounded by low clipped hedges. Last year I also bought a good hedge trimmer from UK, which helped me lot in trimming my hedges and making it beautiful. In this post I will be discussing how you can buy a hedge trimmer in 2018.

Buying a Hedge trimmer?

When you’re on the look-out for a hedge trimmer, it is very important to know exactly what kind of challenges it needs to face. It is very easy to purchase a model that doesn’t live up to your requirements, if you don’t take the time to do some proper research. You will have to accept some compromises, as each type and model comes with its on set of strengths and weaknesses. You want the most powerful trimmer out there? OK, but you will have to accept high levels of noise and possible arm fatigue. You want something cordless and light? No problem, but you will have to accept less cutting power. We will give you the need-to-know facts, which will make it easier for you to make the best possible purchase decision.

Using Hedge Trimmers 2018

Single- or dual-action hedge trimmer?

Hedge trimmers are often referred to as either single- or dual-action. This is used to describe the type of cutting blades used. (the cutting blades sits on the “cutting bar”) On a single-action model, only one blade moves on the cutting bar. A dual-action model uses two cutting blades, that moves at the same time, back and fourth. This means, that you can cut in both directions. The dual-action models are the most popular, as they have proved to be the most flexible. On the other hand, some people think that single-action is better for more precise, straight cutting, mainly because of the lower weight of the trimmer.

The length of the blade

Hedge trimmers come with blade lengths, that range from 14 to 30 inches. A longer blade means more cutting power, and also you will be able to cover a larger area, faster. Logically, a longer blade also means a heavier trimmer. The most popular sizes seems to be 18-24 inches, so only choose the one with long blade, if you need to be able to reach high, and cut some thick branches.

A few things to look for in a good hedge trimmer:

– Some form of vibration dampening. Too much vibration will result in arm fatigue. (especially true for petrol models)
– Translucent gas tank, so it will be easier to see, when the trimmer needs a refill. (For petrol models)
– A good weight balance.
– Comfortable handles for the best maneuverability.
– Blades that stops instantly, when the machine is turned off.
– A safety shield, that can protect your hands from the blades.
– A 2.8 amp engine, or more. (for electric-powered models)

3 types of hedge trimmers:

Let’s have a closer look at the three most important types of hedge trimmers, on the market today:

Electric Hedge Trimmers (corded):

These kinds of trimmers are light in weight and easy to transport. They can weigh anywhere from 5 pounds to 10 pounds. The low weight makes them a good choice for people with limited muscle strength.

Very low weight.
Enough power for most gardening tasks.
The cord makes them far less mobile than the petrol and cordless ones.
It is easy to cut the cord by mistake, which means one has to be constantly aware of the cord, when using this particular trimmer type.

Cordless Hedge Trimmers:

These trimmers comes with a rechargeable battery. Hence, there is no cord required for current to work with these trimmers. If one compares the power of the trimmers, then obviously the corded hedge trimmers are more powerful, however, cordless trimmers are just much more convenient.. Batteries need to be recharges after every 40 to 60 minutes depending on how much work the trimmer needs to do. Keep in mind that the batteries in this type of hedge trimmer, often needs to be replaced after a few years.

Convenient and relatively silent.
Lighter than petrol models. Won’t cause arm fatigue as fast.
Battery runs dry pretty fast. 30-60 minutes usage, before recharging, is normal.
Less cutting power than both electrical and petrol/gas powered models.
Heavier than electrical corded hedge trimmers.

Petrol Hedge Trimmers:

They are comparatively heavy and make a lot of noise. However, they are very powerful. This type is the best choice for cutting the thickest branches. It takes some time to start these trimmers and regular maintenance of the engine is required. Because of the heavy weight, of this particular trimmer type, they can be exhausting to use for longer periods of time.

Very powerful.
More mobile than a corded (If you have the strength).
Produces a lot of noise.
Pollutes more than other types.
The weight.

Bedwetting Alarm was effective for my son

I know that life can be difficult to for bedwetting teenagers. This problem is embarrassing for most and they have a difficult time opening up to their parents about possible solutions. Even though it is a common problem, bedwetting teenagers usually feel isolated and alone. However it is important to talk about this openly without causing embarrassment as it may help resolving the problem more quickly.

Best of all, if you talk openly about bed wetting you will open up doors to about lots of other issues as well. You will ensure your child that no matter what, they will always have someone they can trust to turn to whenever they need guidance and support. That is a good solution for everyone.

The Two Categories Of Bedwetting Teenagers

These categories are primary enuresis and secondary enuresis. Teenager with primary nocturnal enuresis has had the habit of bedwetting since a baby. The one with secondary enuresis however develops the problem over several months or even years. In most cases bedwetting teenagers are in the secondary category rather than having primary enuresis.

Simple human anatomy shows that the urinary bladder is a muscular vessel, a container for holding the urine. As the urine enters, it expands and gets larger and then it gets smaller to force the urine out. When you have normal bladder control the nerves in the urinary bladder tell the brain when the bladder becomes full. The brain then sends a message to hold the bladder from involuntary emptying until you are at the toilet.

The exact cause of nocturnal enuresis is not known to doctors but some facts have been discovered. One discovery is that hormonal problems can cause these night troubles. The body uses ADH hormone to generate less urine during the night but if the body is not developing enough of this hormone the body will produce too much urine and an accident will occur. Some teens simply have a very small bladder that isn’t big enough to hold large volume of urine, which then results in trouble at night since the bladder can’t hold it all in. Teens with these kind of problems will often discover that their parents fought the same battle years ago.

Sleep disorder (deep sleep habits) are also known to cause bedwetting. Then there are the psychological problems. Family problems, changing schools, difficult social environment and family tension can lead to sleeping disturbed sleeping habits which then leads to bedwetting teenagers. Stress during teenage years should therefore be a suspect as a cause for secondary enuresis.

Bedwetting alarm for bedwetting kids

A bedwetting alarm  is considered a “curative treatment” and is in my opinion the best reliable, economic and effective long term bed wetting solution.  Any parent who is struggling to solve the problem of their child’s bedwetting  will testify about the accompanied difficulties, embarrassment and frustration. It’s just not the parent but also the child’s confidence and self esteem are deeply hurt as he is betrayed by his own body  How you look, react and talk with your bed wetting child after such cases will greatly influence and shape him as a human being and will influence his ability to build confidence and cope with future problems.

Though there are many other therapies that boast about curing bed wetting, but in reality they only provide temporary relief. On the other hand, other bed wetting solutions, such as drugs, behavioral training techniques, dry protection or others are considered “control treatment”, as they just “buy time” until the enuresis children stop bed wetting on their own. In my case, bed wetting alarm was very effective in curing my 8 year old son. I bought one of the best bed wetting alarm from UK “DRI Sleeper Eclipse Wireless Bed Wetting Alarm”. It is great device with no wires and that’s make it easier for kids to adopt.

The alarm’s purpose is to eventually cure your enuresis child so he or she will either be sleeping the whole night without the need to empty the bladder, or will wake up on his own before wetting the bed. This is achieved by training the brain to control the bladder through recurring arousals whenever the urge for nighttime involuntary urination occurs.
bedwetting alarm in UK 2018
All bedwetting alarms, although vary in their style (wireless, wire or pad alarms), work on the same concept and have the same components: a moisture detector, which is attached to the bedwetting child’s sleeping underwear/pajamas or placed on the mattress, and an alarm unit. Once the child starts to pee, the moisture detector signals the alarm component that should wake the child up (by making alarm sounds, vibration or flashing light) in order to continue the urination in the bathroom rather than in bed.

Enuresis alarm treatment requires motivation from both your enuresis child and yourself, the parent. It is most likely, especially for deep sleepers and at the early phases of the alarm treatment that your child may not wake up when the alarm detects the urine and starts its action. Therefore you should wake the child up immediately, and verify he or she is fully conscious and not sleepwalking while going to the bathroom to continue urinating. By doing so, most enuresis children will eventually learn to wake up on their own,

The bedwetting alarm should be used regularly on nightly basis until the child achieves approximately 3 consecutive weeks of dry nights. This may take from 5 weeks to 6 months to achieve, with an average duration of 10 weeks. If there is a illness causing it then the illness is treated. There are also some behavioral approaches to the problem that are utilized for treatment. The solutions closest to a ‘quick fix’ is to prevent a swarming bladder by reducing drastically the quantity of fluids they drink before going to bed. And of course they should always try to go to the toilet before going to bed, even though sometimes it feels like a waste of time.

Overall, the process is a combination of behavioral modifications, reduction of mental tension and sometimes a very mild medication that can help a teen controlling the bed wetting.

It’s Time

I gave myself three weeks to get over not eating sugar by allowing myself to eat pretty much what I want in the amount that I wanted. What did I discover? I can still eat a lot of calories even when sugar isn’t involved. But I already knew that and I bet you did too.

What else? white bread + real butter is crack. For real, I love bread with butter, just as much as I love a good brownie- if not more. I think.

So while I love that I’m not eating sugar, not eating it alone won’t tackle this excess weight. And that is kind of the point. I’ve been having serious conversations with myself lately in the form of:

  • How am I going to lose this weight?
  • What am I willing to sacrifice/change in order to make it happen?
  • Am I ready? (thanks to Roni for that one)
  • Why is weight my struggle?
  • And finally: WHY do I want to lose weight?

A lot of you comment/email me and mention how honest and candid I am, and I really try to keep that in my blog. I try to be as real and as honest with what I’m dealing with as possible (without totally embarrassing myself or my family) and I want to be more of that. Why?

Because I think there is a certain level of denial that goes into being a fat person. There are things I tell myself to make it okay. And why shouldn’t I? I have to function in this world, and to constantly be “woah is me” about my weight can be a waste of time. Besides, who wants to hear it? I’ve realized that few people in life care as much about my weight as I do.

I make an effort in my real life to not put myself down about my weight. I don’t play the “I’m so fat” “I have no willpower” “I’ll never be thin” “I’m off the wagon–again” card with anyone. I used to, in college, but I’m too old for that now. Nor do I praise those who seem to be effortlessly thin.

I say this all to say: denial is a big word. It’s huge, and it means something different to everyone. So I’m asking myself lately to really dig deep:

What am I telling myself to make this lifestyle okay?

How do I justify sabotage?

How do I explain eating four thousand calories in a day?

I don’t have immediate, easy, or uncomplicated answers for these questions. I’m not even sure there is one answer to them. What I do know is this: I sabotage myself out of fear. Fear of greatness. Fear of accomplishment. Fear of what other people will think. Fear that bad things will happen once I lose weight.

Illogical fear, that right now, I cannot explain. Remember that episode of Seinfeld where George says to his therapist :”God would never let me be successful; he’d kill me first. He’d never let me be happy.” Therapist: “I thought you didn’t believe in God?” George: “I do for the bad things.” It’s as crazy as that. For some reason I believe that I’m not worth caring for myself on that level. And as I type this, I know that is very silly and in my case George’s God would be me.

This is what I came up with:

How am I going to lose my excess weight? According to those often debated BMI charts I need to weigh somewhere between 108-145 lbs. The 108 made me laugh. I have no interest in weighing 108 lbs. I haven’t weighed that since I was in 4th grade. This means that I need to lose 160 pounds to be in a normal weight range for my body.

And according to the basal metabolic calculators I need to eat (at my current weight) about 1,700 calories a day with 5-6 days of exercise a week to lose a minimum of two pounds a week. And those are the mathematics of it all. I’ve discussed this here before.

But how do I make this happen? The answer leads me to…

What am I willing to sacrifice/change in order to lose weight? This is a good question and one that I’ve avoided answering for a long time. Making my weight loss a priority rather than an option is one mental shift I need to change. I want to lose weight, that is a given, but I’m not willing to do it by eating foods I don’t love, that is also a given. But what I have to understand and implement in my life is that I don’t need so much food to be a healthy, functioning adult. I don’t have to eat 100 calorie packs of popcorn for lunch to be thin. I don’t have to skip meals, drink diet soda, eat frozen meals or drink meal replacement shakes to lose weight.

But I do have to plan. I do have to be prepared. I do have to compromise and stop believing that I deserve to eat so much food instead of feeling pain. That is something that I need to come to terms with.

My next answer touches on the Am I ready? question. Am I ready to plan my meals out the day before? Am I ready to stop bringing trigger foods into the house? Am I ready to make dinner even if it’s easier to order pizza? Am I ready to take care of myself on days when it’s hard to get out of bed? Am I ready to choose the smaller portion? Am I ready not to give in to any desire to overeat? Am I ready to take the time to count calories? Am I ready to keep a journal? Am I ready to become a healthier person? Am I ready to believe I deserve to become this person? Am I ready to exercise even when I’m tired or too busy?

Up until now…I don’t think I was ready. I know I wasn’t ready, or I’d be there. I would have done this. I wanted it to be easy. I wanted to eat whatever I wanted in the amounts that I wanted and still be thin. I wanted to make few changes if any at all. I wanted to rely on a diet or a program to change me. I wanted to just buy the book, or the exercise dvd or the gym membership. I wanted the results, but I did not want to change my actions the get them.

Why do I want to lose 160+ pounds?

I truly, truly want to know what it’s like not to be fat. Not to feel overweight, not to squeeze my thighs into chairs. I want to know what it feels like to make this happen.

I want to be accepted into a health care plan. Right now, I would be denied and I couldn’t afford it. I’ve tried.

I want to get pregnant and not be fearful. I don’t want to be fat and pregnant. I don’t want to worry about a c-section, or being a high risk pregnancy. I don’t want to be exposed on the table in front of people at this weight. The thought is absolutely terrifying.

I want to be a better wife. My husband deserves a healthy wife- long term. He deserves to not worry about me having a stroke, cancer or heart attack when I’m in my 50’s.

I want to be able to run for three miles without having to stop and walk. Or having my feet go numb.

I want to go to the doctor and not have the weight talk. I want to go to the doctor and not have everything be about my weight. Like the time I had an ingrown toenail and the nurse practitioner was convinced it was because I was pre-diabetic. I wasn’t, I just needed the toenail removed.

So there you have it. I’ll be back tomorrow. It’s time to make this happen…